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The Key to the Heart

Friday, 20 December, 2013 - 3:33 pm

The mother wanted her son to go to Bar Mitzvah lessons, but he wasn't very enthusiastic about the idea, to say the least...  How do we get him on board? The answer was my remote, car key.

It started like a fairly common story.  A mother wants her child to take Bar Mitzvah lessons and make this event special in his life and the life of his family. However, the son gets nervous by the expectations, and is afraid by the thought of needing to learn a new language and being introduced to concepts that weren't part of his life up to this point. He refuses to cooperate.

As a last resort, I went for a home visit to try to break the ice through casual conversation... At the scheduled time, I arrived at the family home, parked my car, and started to walk to the door; but then the garage door opened. I turned around. I thought that they wanted me to come through there, but it didn't seem like anyone was greeting me there, so I turned back to the main door.

I spent at least 2 hours at the house. I had great conversations with the family and the boy; we connected pretty well, and I felt that it was a good beginning to assist the boy in reclaiming his heritage.

As I stood with the family by the doorway to the house, I got ready to leave and clicked remote to open the car doors  - the garage door opened instantly. I clicked the key again, and the garage door stopped.  Turns out... my car key opens and closes their garage door.

Standing there and watching it happen - the boy seemed to think that I have magic powers; the mother took it as a clear sign from heaven that this is the right path for her son... Without any doubt this incident closed the deal! When I got home and did my google research, I learned that indeed there is an extremely small chance that a random car key will match the code of a modern garage door.

 My thought was that the fact that my key happen to open that garage is perhaps a touch of magic; but the fact that it was able to open the heart of another - this is

Comments on: The Key to the Heart

Fiona Prince wrote...

I love this story! Thank you for writing about it, Rabbi. Good Shabbos and see you in shul :-)

Elisabeth Gelb wrote...

Shabbat Shalom dear Rabbi,
A memorable, heart warming story that will be retold for generations, especially by the Bar Mitzvah boy.

Ruth Date wrote...

Shabbat Shalom and thank you for the wonderful story. Miracles do happen everyday. After having spent several days this week in terrible grief and praying to G-d for the courage and strength to get through it; I sat late into the night on Thursday, thinking and praying, suddenly a small light on my mantelpiece turned on by it's own accord increasing the light in my sitting room significantly. This has NEVER happened before and upon checking the lamp, brand new from Walmart recently, there was no defect. When I turned it off, the switch was firm and sure and stayed off.

I thank you and Chabad every day for all of your incredible work for the community.

Malca casiro wrote...

Lovely and even more lovely that you made such efforts to try and introduce a young boy to the beauty and wisdom of his heritage.

Mercedes wrote...

Miracles DO happen! And how wonderful of you to become such a positive part of this family's life at the time they needed it the most!