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Praying for my mother

Friday, 10 June, 2011 - 3:23 pm

 As some of you may know, last Sunday my mother, Mrs. Sara Kaplan of Tzfat, suffered a severe stroke. Since then she has been getting, Thank G-d, wonderful treatment in the local hospital.

 I know that many of you have met my mother, and heard her speak on different occasions, including last summer (see pictures here) and most recently on Pesach.

What you are most probably unaware of, is the extent of her involvement with the work we do here in Victoria. Not only does she know of every event or program we offer, and interested in getting a detailed report after each one, but she helps Chani and me regularly, with her wise advice for planning and decision making, and with her broad and deep knowledge and insight with preparation for classes and teachings.

On Sunday evening, when I heard the shocking news, I was ready to take the next airplane to Israel, especially since her condition was unknown.

Knowing my mother's selflessness and giving nature, I knew what she would tell me to do. In fact I was thinking that if she would see me there, she would wonder how I can leave my home and community for Shavuot, when there is so much happening...

Though, it is very difficult, being so far away while the rest of my family is together by her bedside, when about 100 men, women and children came on Wednesday to the largest Shavuot celebration we had in our Shul - I knew it was the right decision to stay here for the Holiday.  (My apologies to all of our friends for not sharing the news at that time, I didn’t want to hurt the spirit of the celebration).

I know that when I will be going next week to Israel to visit her - she'll be very proud of my decision, and she'll ask me, as always, to hear in detail how was Shavuot in Victoria...

I will be grateful to you if you will take a moment of your time to say chapter 60 of tehillin (below) for the speedy and complete recovery of Sara Hinda Bas Chaya.

Please G-d; I will be a messenger of good news very soon. 

א  לַמְנַצֵּחַ, עַל-שׁוּשַׁן עֵדוּת;    מִכְתָּם לְדָוִד לְלַמֵּד.
ב  בְּהַצּוֹתוֹ, אֶת אֲרַם נַהֲרַיִם--    וְאֶת-אֲרַם צוֹבָה:
וַיָּשָׁב יוֹאָב, וַיַּךְ אֶת-אֱדוֹם בְּגֵיא-מֶלַח--    שְׁנֵים עָשָׂר אָלֶף.
ג  אֱלֹהִים, זְנַחְתָּנוּ פְרַצְתָּנוּ;    אָנַפְתָּ, תְּשׁוֹבֵב לָנוּ.
ד  הִרְעַשְׁתָּה אֶרֶץ פְּצַמְתָּהּ;    רְפָה שְׁבָרֶיהָ כִי-מָטָה.
ה  הִרְאִיתָ עַמְּךָ קָשָׁה;    הִשְׁקִיתָנוּ, יַיִן תַּרְעֵלָה.
ו  נָתַתָּה לִּירֵאֶיךָ נֵּס, לְהִתְנוֹסֵס--    מִפְּנֵי, קֹשֶׁט סֶלָה.
ז  לְמַעַן, יֵחָלְצוּן יְדִידֶיךָ;    הוֹשִׁיעָה יְמִינְךָ וַעֲנֵנִי.
ח  אֱלֹהִים, דִּבֶּר בְּקָדְשׁוֹ--אֶעְלֹזָה:    אֲחַלְּקָה שְׁכֶם; וְעֵמֶק סֻכּוֹת אֲמַדֵּד.
ט  לִי גִלְעָד, וְלִי מְנַשֶּׁה, וְאֶפְרַיִם, מָעוֹז רֹאשִׁי;    יְהוּדָה, מְחֹקְקִי.
י  מוֹאָב, סִיר רַחְצִי--עַל-אֱדוֹם, אַשְׁלִיךְ נַעֲלִי;    עָלַי, פְּלֶשֶׁת הִתְרוֹעָעִי.
יא  מִי יֹבִלֵנִי, עִיר מָצוֹר;    מִי נָחַנִי עַד-אֱדוֹם.
יב  הֲלֹא-אַתָּה אֱלֹהִים זְנַחְתָּנוּ;    וְלֹא-תֵצֵא אֱלֹהִים, בְּצִבְאוֹתֵינוּ.
יג  הָבָה-לָּנוּ עֶזְרָת מִצָּר;    וְשָׁוְא, תְּשׁוּעַת אָדָם.
יד בֵּאלֹהִים נַעֲשֶׂה-חָיִל;    וְהוּא, יָבוּס צָרֵינו

1. For the conductor, on shushan eduth, a michtam of David, to teach.

2. When he fought with Aram-Naharaim and with Aram-Zobah, and Joab returned and smote twelve thousand of Edom in the valley of salt.

3. O God, You have forsaken us; You have breached us; You were angry with us. You shall restore us.

4. You caused the land to quake; You split it; heal its breaches for it has faltered.

5. You have shown Your people harshness; You have given us to drink wine of bewilderment.

6. You have given those who fear You trials with which to be tested, in order to beautify [Your behavior] forever.

7. In order that Your beloved ones should be rescued, save Your right hand and answer me.

8. God spoke in His Sanctuary; I will exult, I will divide a portion, and I will measure the valley of Succoth.

9. Gilead is mine, and Manasseh is mine, and Ephraim is the strength of my head; Judah is my lawgiver.

10. Moab is my washbasin; on Edom I will throw my lock; Philistia, join me.

11. Who will bring me to a fortified city?-He Who led me to Edom?

12. Is it not You, O God, Who has forsaken us, and [Who] does not go forth, O God, with our hosts?

13. Give us aid against the adversary, but the salvation of man is futile.

14. Through God we shall gather might, and He will trample our adversaries.


Comments on: Praying for my mother

Harry Abrams wrote...

This is very sad news. I wish your Mother a speedy and complete recovery.

Harry Abrams

Mel and Marilyn Weisbart wrote...

We all pray for a full recovery for your Mother.

lindy Shortt wrote...

Dear Rabbi Kaplan,

Our davening for your wonderful mother, Sarah Hinda bas Chaya, will be constant and with great koach.

May she regain full health and vigor.

We wish you a N'siya Tovah as you go to Israel on Monday.

Please give Mrs. Kaplan our fondest regards. Please let her know that we pray that each day will give her increased strength.

Shabbat Shalom,

Shmuel and Lindy

Susan and Alan Kendal wrote...

Our wishes for a speedy and complete recovery of your beloved mother.

Lucy Nerenberg wrote...

Dear Rabbi Kaplan,

Our thoughts are with you and your family, wishing your mother a speedy recovery.

Shabbat Shalom,

Lucy Nerenberg

Yvette & David Freeman wrote...

To: All the Kaplan Family,

Wishing your dear Mother a Refuah Shleimah.

Shabbat Shalom,

Yvette & David Freeman

Elias Mandel wrote...

After the wonderful sermon on the two tablets and the stress on "Honour thy Father and thy Mother", I was saddened to hear about what happened in Tzvat. This is the time to go with the entire family to visit her, and there is good chance some of the results will regress, leaving her with minimal changes. Your presence there will help tremendously. A couple of weeks is nothing for a lifetime of devotion to children.
If I can help in any way, let me know.

Joyce Skolnick wrote...

Dear Rabbi
I am so sorry to hear about your Mother.
Fly safely and may your Mother have a speedy recovery. I shall pray for her.


Morah Faygah wrote...

It was amazing to see our small shul full to standing room only for the service on Wednesday evening. I know that the ice-cream was only a small part of what drew us all together to hear the Ten Commandments and celebrate this special holiday.

You mother will be so happy and proud of all you are accomplishing here. Every year you teach us more and welcome new faces to our shul.

Fly safely and please G-d, find your mother recovering well and smiling to see you and hear your stories.

Love Morah Faygah

Inna & Alex wrote...

Dear Rabbi and Chani,
Alex and I just learned about your Mother's illness. All our prayers are with you and we hope that G-d will grant Sara Hinda bas Chaya a good recovery. May all your family be well and we hope that your trip to Eretz Israel will be safe and will bring joy to your Mother.
We all know how proud she is of you and Chani for your tireless and selfless work in our community.
LOVE, Inna & Alex.

David and Susan Sandell wrote...

Dear Rabbi Kaplan and Chani;
We were sorry to learn of your mother's illness. Our prayers are with you and we hope that your mother has a very good recovery. We are sure that your travel to her side will give her strength and help her be well.
With good wishes,
David and Susan


Ruth and Fred Cooperstock wrote...

Dear Rabbi and Chani Kaplan,

We were so saddened to learn of your dear mother's stroke. We wish her a speedy and full recovery.
May you have good news on your return to Victoria.
With warm regards to Mrs. Kaplan,
Ruth and Fred

Alex and Ana Porzecanski wrote...

Our dear Rabbi, we will pray for your mother's swift and full recovery! We cannot help but admire how you celebrated Shavuot with all of us, and we didn't even realize that something was wrong! You have such faith and fortitude, it is an example to us all.
Our thoughts are with you, Chani and the children,
Alex and Ana P.

Malca Casiro wrote...

So sorry to hear of your mother's illness and wish her much strength and courage in meeting this present challenge. May you travel safely and may you inspire her to work hard towards recovery. Malca

Zoe Sandell wrote...

Our family's thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. sincere warm regards and love-Zoe, Steve and Rosemary

Zoe Sandell wrote...

Our family's thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. sincere warm regards and love-Zoe, Steve and Rosemary

Betty Mortin wrote...

Dear Rabbi,
When I stayed with your mother in Safet a few years ago, I was so impressed with her Holiness and Chesed, and realized where you get alot of "YOUR" wisdom! I shall pray for her, a truly remarkable woman. Betty/Don Mortin

Iris Colyn wrote...

Your mother has inspired many hearts and souls in Victoria. At this difficult time, we wish her רפואה שלמה from the depths of our hearts. Thank you for your leadership-even at this distressing time you made selfless decisions according to what you thought best for the community. Nesia Tova-our thoughts and prayers are with your mother.
Iris and family

Zippy and Octav wrote...

We wish your mother refuah shlema. Very quick recovery and many healthy years.
All the best for your whole family
Zippy and Octav

Tami and Shalomo Romi wrote...

לרב מאיר היקר ולמשפחתו ,מאחלים רפואה שלימה והחלמה מהירה לאמא לעוד שנים רבות וטובות של עשיה ברוכה.
כל טוב
תמי ושלמה רומי

Tami and Shalomo Romi wrote...

לרב מאיר היקר ולמשפחתו ,מאחלים רפואה שלימה והחלמה מהירה לאמא לעוד שנים רבות וטובות של עשיה ברוכה.
כל טוב
תמי ושלמה רומי

Gerald B. Stanford wrote...

Dear Rabbi Meir,
It seems our previous message did not get through but no matter the important thing is that you are with your Mother, in Israel, and it seems is improving and so you should stay with her as long as is necessary to help her recover.
May Ha Shem grant her a speedy recovery and return to health so that she can continue to be proud your work here and to help you and Chani when you return but, at the moment it is her recovery that is important and for that you should stay with her. For that we will be here for you when Ha Shem shows his Love and gratefulness for you by health of your Mother.
May Adonai continue to bless you and lovingly regard You and Her and grant her ein hundert und tzwanzich jahren and however many more he can in good health of body and mind.
We shall ever pray to HaShem to help good health and joy return to You both in Tzwat and Us here in Victoria. Your devoted friends
Noemi and Gerry